Happy Wednesday, my Friendliest Friends,
I hope you’re having a wonderful week. Mine has been though. I had to do 2 presentations at school and I’m also doing the finishing touches on my thesis in order to be able to graduate this semester. It’s been a stressful couple of days with lots of anxiety and thoughts that gave me a hard time focusing on the actual tasks. It’s so annoying when you’re in the middle of a busy week, buried in assignments and thoughts of “I can’t do this”, “I’m not good enough”, “What if I can’t give a perfect performance?” come up and leave you paralysed. Fear is paralysing hence it doesn’t have any use, it’s a negative emotion that sucks up all our energy and it just makes us waste our time. I literally stopped counting the minutes and hours I spent worrying, second guessing myself while the task was laying in front of me waiting to be finished.
So while being in this bubble of fear, I started looking at myself from an other point of view, in a more objective way and I realised what I was doing was completely unnecessary, stupid even, and most importantly there was no logical foundation for me to feel the way that I felt. I mean, let’s just stop for minute and think about how much fear comparing ourselves to others creates. Instead of having our own expectations towards ourselves, we tend to choose people around us that we want to be similar to and we feel like we’re so so far behind, and we can never reach their level of ideal. And then we’re afraid that we’re not good enough. I have these super smart classmates that seem to know every single thing in the world and they make me feel like I have no right to sit at that particular lecture and being there almost feels humiliating.
Same goes with our physical appearance. All the time I spent admiring others for features I could never have-because of obvious genetic reasons-I could’ve just spent that time discovering how I could create a better me. A healthier me. A fitter me. It’s great to have people that motivate us in our lives but it’s even better to be your own motivation. It is possible. By creating a change in your life, you challenge yourself for the better hence you can prove that you’re able to tackle obstacles on your very own and not because of a poster of a bikini model hanging on your wall.
What’s even scarier is that certain situations are potentially creating emotions of fear, doubt and agony. In most cases, we’re not afraid of the physical outcome of the situation but we fear of the feeling that particular situation will makes us feel. Having trouble following me? Let me simplify. Every action that we take has a potential outcome, positive or negative. The result is always a feeling and if that feeling is negative, we’re in trouble cause we’re gonna purposely avoid that situation in the future so we don’t have to face the uncomfortable reality again. From avoidance comes ignorance and ignorance is the deadliest weapon we could ever use against ourselves. Ignorance means we won’t face the facts. The hurtful ones like “shit, I eat way too much, I need to figure this thing out” or “I really need to read more to get better grades” and so on. Taking action is the key. I keep repeating myself in these heart-to-heart posts but I really mean what I say and I find it really important.
If you don’t feel proud of yourself, if you don’t feel accomplished, or you don’t like what you see in the mirror, don’t just long for a change, take actions and be the change. Noone does the work instead of YOU. And you know what? There’s nothing more satisfying than realising that you actually did it. Why would you give the victory away? You don’t have to be a supermodel, or an athlete or a brainiac to change but you can certainly become one if you finally notice that being you is completely enough.
Sorry for posting so late in the evening. I wouldn’t miss a blogging Wednesday for anything, though. 🙂 I hope I could boost your little souls with some nagging.
I love you, guys! Be happy and have a great week with lots and lots of vitamin D. 😉
Love and hugs,