Hey my beautiful Friends,
Today is a pretty lethargic day here in Budapest. It’s cloudy, rainy, gloomy and I feel like staying in bed with my penguins (toys of course 😀 ) and just sleep all day long until it’s warm and sunny again outside but I have so much stuff to do so going into bear-mode is not an option. I have to go to classes at uni, then prepare for my private class in italian-cause I’m in the process of learning a second language to get my BA degree-plus I’ve got about three huge papers to write in three different topics, I need to keep my apartment somewhat clean an tidy not to mention the pressure of writing my final thesis to graduate this summer that weighs on my shoulder like a ridiculously heavy stone. Oh and if all this wasn’t enough I’m also planning my wedding that’ll be happening in September 2016. No wonder I feel like it’s too much, that I can’t keep up with the pace of my own life and the different events that have been happening around me since school started in September. I wake up on a Monday morning and the next thing I know it’s Friday night. Weekends fly by like seconds because we usually have so much fun with Adam and our families and friends and when we’re not with others we’re working on something school, work or music related.
I bet you started wondering why I’m acting like a whining little girl, listing my problems and sharing them with you…like you guys didn’t have your own stuff to deal with every day, right? But I’m actually doing this to help you and myself. I actually want to dedicate this post encourage you to try my tips and tricks if you feel overwhelmed, if you feel like you’re failing or just simply are not motivated enough to complete the tasks you should.
- Hiding from your problems will not make them disappear: Believe me, it’s better to face the painful truth and the challenges that life throws in your way. You won’t be able to escape anyways. Try to look at these challenges as positive problems that need to be solved. We tend to choose the easy way out whenever something seems too challenging and whenever a positive outcome is not guaranteed but even if we fail there’s a conclusion we can learn from and we end up gaining experience which is always more helpful than a minute of glory. Don’t be afraid if something doesn’t work out the way you wanted to. There are a few aspects of life that are not in your hand. If something unfair happens or if you have to deal with an evil-minded person just be sure that you’re heart is in the right place, don’t let them affect your performance.
- Make a list: This is a technical advice that helped me so much when I felt like losing track of the tasks I had to complete. Just take a piece of paper or open a new note in your computer and write down all things in bullet points that have to be taken care of. If the list is too long, make categories like “school”, “work”, “home”, “meetings” etc. and put the tasks in the order of their due date. This way you gonna end up with a perfect guideline that’ll prevent forgetting important things like an essay. My personal favourite part of this process is when I get to cross a task that I completed successfully. On the other hand, I had a really hard time accepting that these lists will never end. Although, everything is crossed for a day or two, there will always come new ones in the place of the old. So just stay calm and try to appreciate the flow of your existence because you live, you create and that’s why you’re here on this beautiful planet.
- Find the “effective” hour: Every person is different so spend some time to concentrate on your biological clock. Your body will tell you when is the perfect time to really sit down and study or write an essay. Actually, you should feel it without even drinking coffee or using any stimulants (which I do but definitely not every day). Try to avoid caffeine, energy drinks (don’t drink energy drinks please, they’re so so bad for you) and pills that are supposed to wake up your brain and really try to be observant as to when you feel focused, awake and aware most during the day. As for me, I’m most affective between 9 and 12 in the morning and between 5-9 in the evening. For some reason, I tend to feel sleepy after lunch and I’m the kind of person who needs her afternoon nap. It doesn’t happen most of the time but this is what I noticed. Coffee can be a huge help though and sometimes we can’t avoid staying up late but use these only when you really need. Coffee for me is more a treat than a tool.
- Exercise: It’s all about the blood flow people! It’s really simple: when you get moving, more blood gets into your brain which helps you think and memorise things more easily. Even if you only have 10 minutes a day use that to get your body moving. It makes the biggest difference. Find a great workout on youtube. I highly recommend Fitness blender (I’ll link their channel down below). They have all kinds of no equipment workout routines that you can easily do at home.
- Take breaks eventually: There are those kinds of long long nights when you have to memorise pages and pages of difficult definitions and really numbing texts that feel like you’ll never use them in your life but your test grade is at stake. You need to develop patience. It’s the hardest thing really. At least for me it is. I’m incredibly impatient so it’s something I try to work on every day but in these cases you have to sit down on your butt and study. It means hours and hours straight doing the same thing. Our brain likes variety and we can’t fully concentrate on one thing more than 45 minutes. But if you insert 10-15 minute long break between each session it’ll make it easier to stay focused. Open the window and let some air in, or take a short walk, listen to something, watch a video, make yourself a healthy! snack. You want your sugar levels to stay on a healthy average.
- Find a study-buddy: It always helps to find someone who’s in the same shoes as you are and deals with the same problems or tasks as you. Study together and motivate each other. A compassionate smile can mean the world. It’s also a great way to get closer to a person and develop a deeper friendship.
- Watch motivational videos or read/listen to motivational audio-books: I have a ton of suggestions in this topic because I’m a huge fan of youtubers who talk about how to be more effective, motivated and successful. I’ll include their Youtube channels down below because I learn so much from them and I’m thankful beyond words that these videos are out there for free to help us grow.
- Don’t grow spikes: This is something I myself still have to correct in order to be the better version of myself and a great partner in my relationship. I’m sure you can relate to the feeling of having too much on your plate and being angry to the whole world because of it and the person who suffers from the consequences is the one you love the most. My fiancé Adam is the most patient person I know (and his brother…gotta mention his brother. Damn, that man is the definition of patience 😀 )so if he feels like I’m crossing a line something is really wrong. To avoid remorse and regret after a fight that flared up because you’re too stressed out be conscious and learn to differentiate the feelings that make you angry, unhappy and grumpy. Know that it’s not your loved one’s fault. Instead, use their support and let it all out by talking about everything that you’re dealing with, as for advice or just cry it out. Crying helps. A lot. It’s a kind of release and it’s a necessity.
- Eat right: As I already mentioned above, eating is important to provide fuel to your brain and body. When we’re studying we use a lot of fuel and it matters a lot wether it comes from a crappy source or real energy like fruits, veggies, lean protein, grains and foods that you use up in a slow pace so your sugar levels won’t fluctuate erraticly. Don’t use food as something that takes your mind off of things but instead use it as something that helps you put your mind ON to something.
- Have faith. I know. What a cliché. But nothing works if you don’t believe you can accomplish it. Your faith in yourself is the tool that gets you started, that motivates you. And with faith comes will and “where there’s will, there’s a way.”
I hope you find these tips and tricks helpful. These are my personal observations, they work for me and I believe they’ll help you guys too in the time of need. 🙂
I love you so much!
Keep calm it’s almost Friday.
Love and hugs: fatimapanka
Fitness blender: https://www.youtube.com/user/FitnessBlender
Mmi Ikonn: https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=mimi+ikonn
Alex Ikonn: https://www.youtube.com/user/AlexIkonn11
Advice from Justin: https://www.youtube.com/user/AdviceFromJustin